Wow. Okay, I'm going to try to respond to this as politely as possible.
Trails in the Sky FC is a game which is, whatever merits it may have, problematic enough on a feminist front that one of your female friends ragequit the game for that exact reason. You are, I'm pretty sure, aware of this.
Yet for some reason you turn around and, of all the games you could have chosen to hype in this space, chose to hype that one. The fact that you chose this game suggests that you don't really have a very good understanding of what makes a game feminist or feminist-friendly, which itself is a bit frustrating but ultimately not that big a deal. But the fact that you chose to post about it knowing full well that this game hurt one of your female friends is just a shitty thing to do, sorry. "Hey I'm sorry that this game affected you this way but I as a dude with no personal stake in this think you're so wrong about this that I'm going to state the polar opposite!" What the fuck, man.
I'm going to ask yourself how you would feel if a particular game got under your skin on a front you care about. Imagine, for instance, that there was a game which portrayed a gay or bisexual man in an incredibly negative light (I'll let you decide what that means, that's the point!). It affects you greatly, and you post about the game on RPGDL, letting everyone know how you feel. Imagine then that one of your friends, a straight person who has never had to endure an iota of stigma for his or her sexuality, knowing how you feel, hypes that game as the most LGBT-friendly game he or she has ever played. I can't imagine you'd take that well, nor should you be expected to.
Obviously I disagree with a number of comments in your post itself (at least as pertains to FC) and if you really want I can explain which ones and why, though I'm not sure if this thread is the right place. I don't want this post to come across as "I don't have the arguments to counter yours so I'm attacking your decision to make them", because believe me I do have the arguments. Perhaps more to the point, so does Ciato, who has made those arguments before! But the arguments themselves aren't why I'm upset and disappointed right now.
Well, notably I'm talking about the three Trails in the Sky games as a whole, not just FC, which I think would change this discussion immensely. I feel pretty strongly about these games and they did come across as feminist-friendly. I'm not trying to disregard Ciato's or your feelings at all! I may not have the correct perspective to see the problematic things in Trails in the Sky FC as instantaneously or feel them as viscerally. But when I was playing the games, this is the impression I got, genuinely trying to look at the story critically. I wanted to share the good aspects that I picked up on, not insult anyone else's perspective...
You say "of all the games I could've chosen", but honestly, that list isn't very long... and most of them seem to have been touched upon already. These games meant something to me, and I wanted to discuss their good points... If you think the problematic parts outweigh the good, then I'll defer to your/Ciato's perspective. But it seems counterproductive to just toss out the things the games did do well, especially if I didn't pick up on the problematic parts intuitively. I did try to keep in mind the comments and criticisms that you both made about FC before when I was thinking about what I liked about how Trails in the Sky progressed throughout the three games! I'm not dismissing your feelings and critiques, though I guess I am challenging them due to how Trails SC and 3rd continued the narrative... I am prepared for the possibility of being completely wrong. Maybe there's some scene or dynamic that I just completely forgot about or wasn't paying enough attention to in Trails that is absolutely abhorrently at odds with my morals. That happens. I'm forgetful. But that long hype post was my genuine emotional impression after playing the games, and I think it's worth discussing. If for nothing else, then perhaps it's a good segue into how games with surface-level "good feminist qualities" might have some seriously abrasive "anti-feminist problems". If it fooled me, someone who is actively turned off by anti-feminist ideals, then what do game writers need to do to be better?
It's also worth noting that I have talked to Ciato about this game series specifically before. We discussed how the Trails games changed over the 3 entries, specifically repudiating some of her complaints that she critiqued in her forum posts. I kind of wanted to write a lot of words about the goods points of the games specifically to highlight how much the series improves over time. It doesn't feel right to just disengage and ignore this series when there's a lot of feminine/feminist themes here to engage with.
...I wrote all of that just now, but I also want to unambiguously apologize. That was my logic for why I wrote the hype post, but clearly I may have misinterpreted the point of this topic, and somehow fell into some kind of mansplaining trap. I am sorry. It clearly hurt your and Ciato's feelings that I would post something so counter to your previously stated opinions. I wish I could say that I did it without thinking, but honestly, I WAS thinking about both of you and how I wanted to share why I thought the series did a good job. That was dismissive of Ciato's unique perspective of the topic and for that I do apologize. ...I just... I don't know how else to express my opinion and have this discussion? I am 100% willing to accept that something is problematic, but I have to actually see and judge HOW something is problematic. I know it's easier and wiser to just accept the opinion of someone with a better perspective, but that runs counter to every other discussion of narrative and media that I've ever had, so I guess I have trouble doing that.