DIE SUPER!!! - G'morning, 2009!

[Luther Lansfeld]

It's fine to be a little emo about this kind of thing. Finding a lady companion instead of being used as a sex doll is a good thing. ^_^

[NotMiki]

Djinn, the only good way to go about this from your position is to convey as honestly as you can that you're looking for someone who is willing to be seen in public with you.  And yeah, if clubs are the only place to meet single women at all (other than work, but obviously you want to avoid that) then keep at them.  Just try to give the right impression.

But y'know, people go to clubs for casual sex, not for relationships.  If you're looking for commitment, you may be just as likely to find someone in another venue (no, I don't know what).  There won't be as many false positives (your chances of getting laid at the local chess club? not so good.) but if you can find someone in another way, there's probably a much better chance of that person being a keeper.

[DjinnAndTonic]

It's fine to be a little emo about this kind of thing. Finding a lady companion instead of being used as a sex doll is a good thing. ^_^

This responds to NotMiki, too.

Yes, I'm looking for something along the lines of a serious relationship where I am compatible with the woman in question. However, I know from experience in America that you have to be careful how you approach that. Looking for compatibility first is good and all, but a lot of times you end up in the inescapable 'friend zone' if you delay too long.

The best relationships with American women I've had started in clubs and casual dating. They ended from other factors, but at least they began at all, which is more than I can say for the relationships where I tried to feel out the girl for compatibility first and I ended up just getting a good friend instead of relationship material (not that I should complain too much about that, but if I'm interested in someone romantically, I'd like to at least have a chance...)

[Shale]

Not quite sure what you mean by 'search'ing people, but guessing that you're referring to dating, I have to wonder what's so alien about planning on an eventual monogamous relationship?

Remember, Snow hates people.

[DjinnAndTonic]

Not quite sure what you mean by 'search'ing people, but guessing that you're referring to dating, I have to wonder what's so alien about planning on an eventual monogamous relationship?

Remember, Snow hates people.

Seriously? As in, not just a generalized, exaggerated 'rawr I hate people' joke?

How so? Is it the standard introverted 'being around people too long is tiring' thing? Or is it more of an aversion to romantic relationships like Grefter/Tai?

I've never actually met Snow in person, so I haven't really experienced the 'people hatred' first hand. His internet persona doesn't really come off as 'anti-people'... He enjoys debate and talking too much... >.>;;

[Jo'ou Ranbu]

Not quite sure what you mean by 'search'ing people

I am very wary of long-term convivence with people, be it via family, be it via relationships. Dealing with others in the level of closeness that a relationship requires unsettles me to the point that my mind doesn't wrap around the idea of actively seeking those. I just don't like people much.

EDIT: Shale conveyed what I tried to say far more succintly. It's hard to explain, though. It's not really much of a joke in my case and it goes a fair deal deeper than typical introvert dislike of crowds. It's a remnant of my old panic syndrome, and it also got magnified by some of my six-month-long depressive crises in early adulthood.

Although I do flanderize the people hatred for comedic effect over the interwebs.

[Veryslightlymad]

I wish I got in on this topic more early so I could express my rage at NOT being used for my sexual prowess.

As it stands, I agree with Jim. You have to more openly express a need to be seen as something other than a piece of finest white meat.

Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go cry to myself in the shower.

[Taishyr]

I wish I got in on this topic more early so I could express my rage at NOT being used for my sexual prowess.

As it stands, I agree with Jim. You have to more openly express a need to be seen as something other than a piece of finest white meat.

Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go cry to myself in the shower.

In other words, same ol' same ol'.

[superaielman]

Sure, taking a sick day sucks and I'm learning what it's like to live as a member of a minority for the first time in my life, but I -do- get to play new RPGs before all of you non-Niu people...  

I'd say that's a valuable lesson no matter what the context. I had classes in school where I was the only white kid in them, so that was an eye opener.

Social events seem like the best bet for picking up a serious girlfriend. I'd say go to church, but that doesn't work on several levels for you.

[Grefter]

If you wanted social activities I would suggest becoming a prostitute, but that seems terribly redundant.

Clearly what you need to do is go to Disney Land/World/Japan and hit on random chicks there.

[Idun]

I'd be facetious and would say that you should look up my friend in Japan, but she's not Japanese and she's about my age, but she's probably one of the most indecisive people I've met.

[AAA]

Blargh. Turns out my financial aid just won't quite cover expenses. I'm 600 bucks short and that doesn't even include books. I do have some money saved up, so it's not like I'm getting kicked out or anything, but it is a giant pain in the ass.

Why do I have to have a meal plan anyway? Why can't I eat nothing but Easy Mac and Ramen Noodles and drink shitty coffee and get high blood pressure and caffiene jitters and wind up with adult onset diabetes like all the kids in the other colleges?

[Ultradude]

If you HAVE to get a meal plan, by God you should use it. At least figure out if they have anything worth eating and look for that.

[Idun]

Are you living on campus? 600 including.. the.. meal plan?

And yay! I was approved for the DL Facebook group!

[Yoshiken]

...There's a DL Facebook group?
Link pls.

[Lady Door]

I've never actually linked to anything on Facebook, hope this works:

http://www.facebook.com/groups.php?id=6705554#/group.php?gid=5910644649

Unrelatedly:

Does anyone know anything about car insurance? My parents put me on theirs when I drove a few years ago, and I haven't even looked at it since. I'm utterly clueless. What's a typical rate? What's too much? How much do you need to buy? How's a high deductible? Etc.

Educate me!

[AAA]

I'm on campus. The 600 dollars short thing is just the total semester summary of tuition, room and board, etc. And yes, I will use my meal plan because it costs 3,000 fucking dollars per year. I did cut it down to 1 meal a day, though, which is why I'm only 600 dollars short.

On the plus side, I can, in fact, use that meal on the buffet place near here so I guess I won't starve. Everything else I've tried so far has been medicore at best.

At least I've got a fridge in my room so I can buy stuff to make here, like lunchmeat and shit.

Ok, LD, how old are you? What's your driving history? Have you gotten into a wreck or anything like that? Are you still in school? If so, what's your GPA? Companies will offer a basic liability option which is what you need to keep from getting ticketed. If you can afford it you want a low deductible and additional insurance that covers you being hit by uninsured or underinsured motorists. You can also pay for medical coverage, where the insurance company will foot part of the bill if you're seriously hurt. I guess it all really depends on how worried you are about being hit.

edit-And of course what kind of car you're driving matters too. Does it have power steering, antilock brakes, etc? If it has additional safety features that'll lower the cost.

[Lady Door]

Yeah, I figured there were questions about specifics. :p

I'm 23 (24 in November), no longer in school, and have one godforsaken wreck on my name (December 2006). It's something I'll have to check on, but it's listed 50% or More At Fault because I suck and live in CA and it was a rear-end accident which is always At Fault for the person doing the rear-ending. NEVERMIND that my car was totaled by his tow bar punching a hole in my radiator and his bumper didn't even have a scratch... Stupid getting into a stupid accident with an off-duty cop near a construction zone. *mutters*

... anyway.

Since this is CA, I am probably looking at full comprehensive coverage on a small sedan (base model, ABS-less Honda Civic). There's way too much litigation and way too much chance of nasty accidents to risk less. Don't mind a deductible as high as $1k.

[Cotigo]

Well, 2/3rds of the way done for today, and already I want to drop 2 of my classes.  Chinese is something I want to learn, but 30 people in a language class plus a TA who is obviously doing this for the first time is... yeah.  Also, I'm fairly sure the instructor for my Tech writing class is half retarded.  Mmph.

At least I know what I'll be getting into later today.  Which is a lot of reprimanding for not keeping up with my Japanese as much as I should have and not being able to read too much with Kanji in it... >_>.  Professor knows me, at least, so it won't be too bad, so long as I refresh quickly.

Hopefully tomorrow's classes will at least seem worthwhile so I have an easy time deciding which class to kick to the curb.

[Jo'ou Ranbu]

There's a DL Facebook group? Will have to look into that when I'm home.

[AAA]

Ok, the crash was 3 years ago and you haven't had anything else like it since? In that case it probably won't matter too much. My best suggestion would be to simply get quote from all the insurance companies you can and go from there. Progressive, Geico, etc.

I started with Progressive and then they jacked up my rate for some unexplained reason. So I literally saved money on my car insurance by switching to Geico. But I don't know what other insurance companies they have in your godforsaken state so you'd probably know where to start better than I. If something sounds too expensive, it probably is, and you should get a second and third opinion.

[Jo'ou Ranbu]

Proofreading physics textbooks for work is giving me flashbacks. Now I remember why I didn't give a fuck about high-school physics in the first place.

[Lady Door]

USAA is quoting me $130/mo for full comprehensive coverage (medical, physical damage, uninsured motorist --  all of that to either my car or the other -- plus emergency roadside service and they'll pay for a rental car if my car needs to be repaired after an accident) or $40/mo for the bare bones.

Is that high or low or what? I have no idea what a good ballpark is. I suppose I'll just have to call a few other companies and check. I've just always been raised with the mantra "USAA is the best." And, given my checking account and credit cards and stuff, so far it has been.

[Idun]

On the plus side, I can, in fact, use that meal on the buffet place near here so I guess I won't starve. Everything else I've tried so far has been medicore at best.

At least I've got a fridge in my room so I can buy stuff to make here, like lunchmeat and shit.

And if worse comes to worse in the hunger front, bring plastic ware with you with a tight lid. If you want to take leftovers like I did at VSU, proceed to open your backpack, pull out the plastic ware, and boldly put food from your plate in there. I wasn't the only one doing this, but it definitely a)saved me trips if I didn't want to waste time going there again and b) it was just convenient.
>.>

[Cmdr_King]

Well... I currently pay about $420 for a six month policy that, far as I know, is just PLPD.  I'm 26 and have a perfect driving record and I think get a discount for other insured cars being in the house.  Sooo yeah, that sounds freakishly good.