Author Topic: Nosy Questions 2009 (Read 6451 times)

superaielman · « **Reply #25 on:** July 10, 2009, 02:42:40 AM »

As Ritapon is satan, I am forced to respectfully disagree there.

Sierra · « **Reply #26 on:** July 10, 2009, 02:55:17 AM »

I'm guessing that wasn't the Rita he had in mind. (Personally, the name makes me think of a Beatles song before RPG characters even enter the equation.)

Obligatory "Riatpon was the best thing about S4" goes here.

metroid composite · « **Reply #27 on:** July 10, 2009, 03:49:10 AM »

First Rita I think of is a Harry Potter character >_>

Dark Holy Elf · « **Reply #28 on:** July 10, 2009, 03:50:32 AM »

First Rita I think of is I'LL GET THOSE POWER RANGERS!

Shale · « **Reply #29 on:** July 10, 2009, 04:14:31 AM »

That's pretty much the only nerd-culture Rita that comes to mind. I completely forgot the HP one existed until MC's comment.

Cmdr_King · « **Reply #30 on:** July 10, 2009, 04:21:13 AM »

D'oh, I mis-phrased question 7. I meant to say, the kids taking their last names from the gender-appropriate parent.

Idun · « **Reply #31 on:** July 10, 2009, 04:27:45 AM »

Quote from: El Cideon on July 10, 2009, 02:35:05 AM

She didn't have a face. Apologies if that was the joke.

074 · « **Reply #32 on:** July 10, 2009, 04:34:47 AM »

Act 1: Married with Children

1. Do you plan to get married? -- Not planning on it right now (very few women I run into actually interest me), but I can be tempted otherwise.
b. If no, can you imagine yourself changing your mind. -- Yes.

For the next few questions, suppose you intended to get married. No fun if you just say "not at all lol" y'know.

2. What sort of wedding would you want? That is, where on the scale of "gigantic money sucking extravaganza" to "simple courthouse marriage license get" to "Vegas, baby" would you fall. -- Honestly, for some stupid reason, I cannot imagine it not involving cosplay of some sort. Families be damned, tuxedos are lame and overdone, and I'd want something -different-. Tradition for tradition's sake blows.

3. Your spouse-to-be approaches you and requests that you change your name. How do you respond? -- Last name? Eh. I'd settle more for a merge.
a. How would you respond if they wanted to take your name? See above.

4. Your potential spouse has children from a previous relationship. Is this an issue? -- Yeah. Kids are anything but my strong point.

5. Do you intend to have children? -- No.
b. If no, suppose your hypothetical spouse change their mind and wanted them. How do you respond? -- Supposed this would happen, despite likely previous agreements that neither party wanted children...honestly not sure.

As before, assume you are going to have children for the following questions.

6. What sort of environment would you raise your children in? That is, in terms of neighboorhood, proximity to family, and so on. -- Urban. I don't want them growing up putting up with what I had to. Family...eh. I wouldn't want them to be dropping by more than once per three months at the least.

7. Your spouse suggest that your children take their names from each of your, girls for the mother and boys for the father (apologies if this doesn't apply to you). How do you respond? Why? -- In the case of last names...that'd be weird. Honestly haven't heard of that before.

8. If you could guarantee that your children would learn one value, what would it be? -- Humility. Last thing I'd want for a child is a pompous jock.

Okay, some easy questions to finish things off.

9. Who are the best parents in fiction? -- ...honestly? Dunno.

10. And the worst? -- From what I've heard...hm. ~~Sounds like Ikaris so far~~, though I'm morbidly curious about what I've heard about one Precia Testarossa. [EDIT] Ikaris have nothing on Mayu's parents(Elfen Lied). Nothing.

Shale · « **Reply #33 on:** July 10, 2009, 05:50:28 AM »

Quote from: Cmdr_King on July 10, 2009, 04:21:13 AM

D'oh, I mis-phrased question 7. I meant to say, the kids taking their last names from the gender-appropriate parent.

In that case, I'd ask why, and probably reject the idea without a good reason; a married couple not having the same last name isn't too unusual, but full siblings with different names would require frequent explanation.

DjinnAndTonic · « **Reply #34 on:** July 10, 2009, 07:05:43 AM »

Yay, fun thought exercises on serious topics that I haven't thought about in a while!

Act 1: Married with Children

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1. Do you plan to get married?
a.If so, how far down the line do you think it'll be.
b. If no, can you imagine yourself changing your mind.

Yes. Definitely yes. I'm one of those weird people with a very strong desire to start a nuclear family. And... now that I have a decent job, I can afford one and I want to start one soon. All that's missing is the girl. Speaking English fluently is an unfortunate requirement for marriage that's severely limiting my options at the moment...

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For the next few questions, suppose you intended to get married. No fun if you just say "not at all lol" y'know.

2. What sort of wedding would you want? That is, where on the scale of "gigantic money sucking extravaganza" to "simple courthouse marriage license get" to "Vegas, baby" would you fall.

I'm gonna go with 'depends on the girl'. I can get into the idea of having a really big party - there's only so many excuses to have a party as big as a wedding...
But I don' t have any need for a big one, personally.

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3. Your spouse-to-be approaches you and requests that you change your name. How do you respond?
a. How would you respond if they wanted to take your name?

It'd be cool to have a nuclear family with all of us having the same name. That being said, it doesn't matter which name it is.

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4. Your potential spouse has children from a previous relationship. Is this an issue?

Not a problem at all. I like kids. I'm a teacher. And a child psychology major. Since I refuse to bring more than 2 of my own offspring into this world (overcrowded as it is), then having a few of someone else's kids as part of my family wouldn't bother me.

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5. Do you intend to have children?
a. If so, how large a problem would a potential spouse being unable to have them be.
b. If no, suppose your hypothetical spouse change their mind and wanted them. How do you respond?

Yes. I want kids. This is a big big deal. I'd like to think that I wouldn't hold it against my wife if she couldn't bear children, but I think it would bother me a lot if I could never have spawn of my own, even with adoption and previous marriage kids. This causes all kinds of psychological dissonance in my life.

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As before, assume you are going to have children for the following questions.
6. What sort of environment do you raise your children in? That is, in terms of neighboorhood, proximity to family, and so on.

Would it be weird to say that I want to raise my kids in Japan? Preferably Tokyo where they wouldn't be stared at too often for being white.

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7. Your spouse suggest that your children take their names from each of your, girls for the mother and boys for the father (apologies if this doesn't apply to you). How do you respond? Why?

I still like the idea of the nuclear family all sharing the same name to have some kind of shared identity, but I could be flexible about the idea.

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8. If you could guarantee that your children would learn one value, what would it be?

Self-Confidence. If they're growing up in Japan, they'll learn all the humility and social conformity they'll ever need. Someone has to teach them how to be strong-minded.

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Okay, some easy questions to finish things off.

9. Who are the best parents in fiction?

10. And the worst?

Best: Since I've seen it recently, I want to say the girl's parents from Bridge to Terabithia. They were cool author-types who knew how to instill creativity and independence in their child. And they knew how to have a good time. But really, any liberal-minded parents in literature are cool.

Worst: Crono's mom. What did you DO to turn your kid into a mute?!

TranceHime · « **Reply #35 on:** July 10, 2009, 01:08:57 PM »

Act 1: Married with Children

1. Do you plan to get married?
a.If so, how far down the line do you think it'll be.
b. If no, can you imagine yourself changing your mind.

Marriage is not a huge concern to me at the moment, but... Chances are perhaps, near a decade into the future, I may consider getting married. It's... nothing huge, but... Well, I've been talking to people. The thing is, I have better things to be thinking about at this point than marriage, heh...

For the next few questions, suppose you intended to get married. No fun if you just say "not at all lol" y'know.

2. What sort of wedding would you want? That is, where on the scale of "gigantic money sucking extravaganza" to "simple courthouse marriage license get" to "Vegas, baby" would you fall.

I, personally, am not the kind of person who would splurge on something like an extravagant wedding. Seriously. That's not to say I won't refuse to have a big wedding, it's... Well, I've been taught the value of thrift significantly early, so...

3. Your spouse-to-be approaches you and requests that you change your name. How do you respond?
a. How would you respond if they wanted to take your name?

It's funny because I had a conversation about this with someone. I would much rather not talk about the details of THAT, because it is private. However, my opinion on it is situational. My name is fine (albeit boring) and I am perfectly content with it. I wouldn't want to change my name under any normal circumstances, at least.

4. Your potential spouse has children from a previous relationship. Is this an issue?

Children from a previous relationship? No, not at all an issue to me, though I partly blame my mother spouting spiels at me saying how I'd be better off with different (richer) parents.

5. Do you intend to have children?
a. If so, how large a problem would a potential spouse being unable to have them be.
b. If no, suppose your hypothetical spouse change their mind and wanted them. How do you respond?

Children... I want kids~ But, going with that direction of thought... I wouldn't be in such a huge rut if my potential spouse were unable to have children. Nope. Not at all. Still, the want is there.

As before, assume you are going to have children for the following questions.

6. What sort of environment do you raise your children in? That is, in terms of neighboorhood, proximity to family, and so on.

This is completely dependent on where I end up at that point, but certainly if possible, I would try and find some sort of neighbourhood that's at least got some semblance of safety. Gee if I want to raise children here where I am right now. That'd be fucking terrible and I would not want that for anyone!

7. Your spouse suggest that your children take their names from each of your, girls for the mother and boys for the father (apologies if this doesn't apply to you). How do you respond? Why?

I would stifle a few laughs in the end. Seriously, reading on the thread, I am immediately reminded of how everyone in my family except my mother has a name that begins with the letter J >_> And looking back on that, I want to say that I... would not like that kind of naming? I mean I have a lot of names in mind after all, but I certainly wouldn't be vehemently vapid against it.

8. If you could guarantee that your children would learn one value, what would it be?

...Definitely being able to acknowledge one's faults. I cannot stress how important this is.

Okay, some easy questions to finish things off.

9. Who are the best parents in fiction? ... I don't know.

10. And the worst? Seconding Cid here... I got nothing >_>

Grefter · « **Reply #36 on:** July 10, 2009, 01:20:35 PM »

Quote from: superaielman on July 10, 2009, 02:42:40 AM

As Ritapon is satan, I am forced to respectfully disagree there.

Time for a fun game of pop psychology. Free association analysis on one single respons!

Super, closet self hater, a basic female name makes him think of Satan.

ElCid likes women in Uniform.

mc likes tween girls.

The Elf has a thing for Supervillainesses.

This is all perfect analysis that simple observation in chat will support.

Sierra · « **Reply #37 on:** July 10, 2009, 05:16:07 PM »

Quote from: Shale on July 10, 2009, 05:50:28 AM

Quote from: Cmdr_King on July 10, 2009, 04:21:13 AM
D'oh, I mis-phrased question 7. I meant to say, the kids taking their last names from the gender-appropriate parent.

In that case, I'd ask why, and probably reject the idea without a good reason; a married couple not having the same last name isn't too unusual, but full siblings with different names would require frequent explanation.

Yep, ditto. Too much potential for confusion. As much as the whole kneejerk "woman takes the man's name" thing bugs me, I've never come up with an elegant alternative. It's fine to have different surnames as long as there no children, but once you've got kids you kinda have to know what to call them and I've never really sorted that out.

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Quote from: Grefter on July 10, 2009, 01:20:35 PM

Quote from: superaielman on July 10, 2009, 02:42:40 AM
As Ritapon is satan, I am forced to respectfully disagree there.

Time for a fun game of pop psychology. Free association analysis on one single respons!

Super, closet self hater, a basic female name makes him think of Satan.

ElCid likes women in Uniform.

mc likes tween girls.

The Elf has a thing for Supervillainesses.

This is all perfect analysis that simple observation in chat will support.

Yeah, I'd say that's pretty accurate.

EDIT: Though it occurs to me that the HP character in question is actually a middle-aged tabloid journalist. Point still stands, I'm sure.

Grefter · « **Reply #38 on:** July 11, 2009, 12:47:35 AM »

That still fits as well given conversations with mc.

metroid composite · « **Reply #39 on:** July 11, 2009, 02:15:39 AM »

I remind you of tabloids?

Grefter · « **Reply #40 on:** July 11, 2009, 04:47:45 AM »

No you are just as likely to be attracted to middle aged woman as a young one.

Clear Tranquil · « **Reply #41 on:** July 11, 2009, 10:51:21 AM »

Act 1: Married with Children

1. Do you plan to get married?

Yes

a.If so, how far down the line do you think it'll be.

Within the next ten years maybe less.

2. What sort of wedding would you want? That is, where on the scale of "gigantic money sucking extravaganza" to "simple courthouse marriage license get" to "Vegas, baby" would you fall.

Fairy Tale wedding with all the trimmings! *flees*
No seriously her wedding day is something often very important to girls, something to look forward to, an important mile stone. Hopefully a once in a lifetime occassion =-)

Ideally I wouldn't want to skimp on it but realistically I know it's not going to be the fairy tale wedding. Simple works for me. Not too cheap or slapdash though or else I'll have something to say!
*flees again*

3. Your spouse-to-be approaches you and requests that you change your name. How do you respond?

Sure, why not. I've already been through name changes what difference does one more make >_>

a. How would you respond if they wanted to take your name?

Sure, why not.

4. Your potential spouse has children from a previous relationship. Is this an issue?

No. I can work with it.

5. Do you intend to have children?

Hell no the pain! Nah maybe? I dunno? I like kids but I have a lot of problems and issues to still work through. I'd feel kinda bad about bringing a new being into a fucked up world with a fucked up mum

If it's too late by the time I've got all my shit sorted out I think adoption would be interesting to look into.

a. If so, how large a problem would a potential spouse being unable to have them be.

It wouldn't.

b. If no, suppose your hypothetical spouse change their mind and wanted them. How do you respond?

Talk things through.

As before, assume you are going to have children for the following questions.

6. What sort of environment do you raise your children in? That is, in terms of neighboorhood, proximity to family, and so on.

Ideally with two parents, a garden/access to the countryside and/or water features, a dog/other pets and with me at home with them. I know that's kind of old fashioned but meh. Though basically safe and clean would do.

7. Your spouse suggest that your children take their names from each of your, girls for the mother and boys for the father (apologies if this doesn't apply to you). How do you respond? Why?

Talk about it. It works.

8. If you could guarantee that your children would learn one value, what would it be?

Self respect/esteem/confidence. If done properly that should lead to gratitude and empathy as well. Treat others how you'd treat yourself and all that~

Grefter · « **Reply #42 on:** July 11, 2009, 11:33:00 AM »

Sod it, lets play silly buggers.

Act 1: Married with Children

1. Do you plan to get married?
No.
b. If no, can you imagine yourself changing your mind.
It could happen, but I doubt it.

2. What sort of wedding would you want? That is, where on the scale of "gigantic money sucking extravaganza" to "simple courthouse marriage license get" to "Vegas, baby" would you fall.
Cheap, functional.
3. Your spouse-to-be approaches you and requests that you change your name. How do you respond?
Whatever, it means very little.
a. How would you respond if they wanted to take your name?
This means even less to me.
4. Your potential spouse has children from a previous relationship. Is this an issue?
If I was going to marry them that would be passed the point of mattering.
5. Do you intend to have children?
No.
b. If no, suppose your hypothetical spouse change their mind and wanted them. How do you respond?
Discuss, I feel no need to do it, but if I was in that kind of position for some stupid reason then there is more than my own shit to deal with.

6. What sort of environment do you raise your children in? That is, in terms of neighboorhood, proximity to family, and so on.
Extended family is very important to me, they are the support network upon which a great deal of humor is built upon.
7. Your spouse suggest that your children take their names from each of your, girls for the mother and boys for the father (apologies if this doesn't apply to you). How do you respond? Why?
Stop being so fucking vain, because this is a total dick move.
8. If you could guarantee that your children would learn one value, what would it be?
Cynicism.

9. Who are the best parents in fiction?
No.
10. And the worst?
No.

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...what do they want me to be named? I'm not sure Megatron would fly.

Actually he can fly.

metroid composite · « **Reply #43 on:** July 11, 2009, 09:31:45 PM »

Quote from: Grefter on July 11, 2009, 04:47:45 AM

No you are just as likely to be attracted to middle aged woman as a young one.

Hm, true, I do have a bit of a crush on a woman who's nearly 40. But then again she looks like...25, maybe 30.

QuietRain · « **Reply #44 on:** July 12, 2009, 03:44:20 AM »

Act 1: Married with Children

1. Do you plan to get married?
a.If so, how far down the line do you think it'll be.
b. If no, can you imagine yourself changing your mind.

I'm as close to getting married as the slippery devil will let me get. ^_^ Almost 8 years together at this point.

2. What sort of wedding would you want? That is, where on the scale of "gigantic money sucking extravaganza" to "simple courthouse marriage license get" to "Vegas, baby" would you fall.

I hate weddings. I wouldn't mind a handfasting or some other small, meaningful ceremony, though.

3. Your spouse-to-be approaches you and requests that you change your name. How do you respond?
a. How would you respond if they wanted to take your name?

Yeah, Gate and I both had no intention of taking the other's name. I took my ex-husband's name and it was a pain to change and a pain to change back later. No thank you. I like mine, despite the fact that almost everyone butchers it the first time they try to say it.

4. Your potential spouse has children from a previous relationship. Is this an issue?

Yes. A very big one. Because he'd had to have fathered them when he was, like, sixteen. Plus I was supposedly his first girl, so if he did have a rugrat, oh there'd be lyings a foot!

5. Do you intend to have children?
a. If so, how large a problem would a potential spouse being unable to have them be.
b. If no, suppose your hypothetical spouse change their mind and wanted them. How do you respond?

I'd love to have more than the one. And A can't be too big of a problem since Gate made it clear from the start that wasn't happening. Didn't send me running then, so no big deal. And as for B, throw a party and call in sick to work for about a week and tumble that boy into our room for the entire span to get to work.

6. What sort of environment do you raise your children in? That is, in terms of neighboorhood, proximity to family, and so on.

Much like Gate, I like it where we are. Perfect for us and for the rugrat.

7. Your spouse suggest that your children take their names from each of your, girls for the mother and boys for the father (apologies if this doesn't apply to you). How do you respond? Why?

I ask him to take a car ride with me and have a psychologist check his head because that's about one of the most un-Gate like ideas I can think of.

8. If you could guarantee that your children would learn one value, what would it be?

To love themselves. Watching a child fall apart because they don't think they're worth anything is painful and demoralizing to both you and the child.

9. Who are the best parents in fiction?

Probably have to agree with Gate. The Weasleys do rock.

10. And the worst?

I decline to answer on the grounds that I alienate enough people in my everyday life that I see no need to do it online, too. ^_^ For a fluff answer, any parent from any book ever written by VC Andrews or her ghost writer.

DjinnAndTonic · « **Reply #45 on:** July 12, 2009, 11:46:50 AM »

Quote from: QuietRain on July 12, 2009, 03:44:20 AM

10. And the worst?

I decline to answer on the grounds that I alienate enough people in my everyday life that I see no need to do it online, too. ^_^ For a fluff answer, any parent from any book ever written by VC Andrews or her ghost writer.

I'm somewhat confused. I don't see how your opinion of who the worst fictional parents are would alienate anyone here...

Grefter · « **Reply #46 on:** July 12, 2009, 12:04:00 PM »

Well maybe if she were to say "Your parents" implying that your entire life is a lie and that you were adopted and that you as the outcome of said fictional parenting is in all ways the worst thing to have happened in the history of mankind then it would be pretty bad.

Not like condemning or anything, just saying you might want to think about it and maybe buy a gun and do the world a favour.

DjinnAndTonic · « **Reply #47 on:** July 12, 2009, 12:27:58 PM »

See? Grefter has no trouble alienating people directly! QR, you shouldn't feel the need to hold back your opinions.

Grefter · « **Reply #48 on:** July 12, 2009, 03:26:02 PM »

Thank you, I am here for the rest of the week.

Cotigo · « **Reply #49 on:** July 13, 2009, 02:26:11 AM »

1. Do you plan to get married?

Solely for the legal and medical benefits provided to married couples over those in, say, a common law union.

a.If so, how far down the line do you think it'll be.
Whenever it happens. Could be 5 years, could be 15, could be 50, could be never.

2. What sort of wedding would you want? That is, where on the scale of "gigantic money sucking extravaganza" to "simple courthouse marriage license get" to "Vegas, baby" would you fall.

Small courthouse deal would be my preference.

3. Your spouse-to-be approaches you and requests that you change your name. How do you respond?
Depends on the name. If it's a really big deal to her I suppose I could be convinced. However the kind of woman who would make a big deal about something so trivial probably isn't the kind of woman I'd want to marry. >_>

a. How would you respond if they wanted to take your name?
With poise and apathy.

4. Your potential spouse has children from a previous relationship. Is this an issue?
Depends on the age of the child, partially. 5+ I can deal with, anything less would be... a trial.

5. Do you intend to have children?
Ha. Ha ha ha. Ha. Ha. Ha. Having children with the future looking so bleak? I wouldn't want to put them through that.

b. If no, suppose your hypothetical spouse change their mind and wanted them. How do you respond?
If there's a good enough argument or it's a very large deal to her I could change my mind. Otherwise I would probably be stubborn about it.

6. What sort of environment do you raise your children in? That is, in terms of neighboorhood, proximity to family, and so on.
I intend, jobs/money allowing, to spend my adulthood travelling the world. As such, that. It would probably be good for the children, too, to expose them to a wide variety of languages, cultures, etc. while they're young.

7. Your spouse suggest that your children take their surnames from each of your, girls for the mother and boys for the father (apologies if this doesn't apply to you). How do you respond? Why?
"A name is a name, it hardly matters. Why are you making such a big deal out of something so stupid?"

8. If you could guarantee that your children would learn one value, what would it be?
Either to be able to view things from another's perspective (something I certainly wish I had been able to do when I was younger, or that I could do it now), or a love of academia/learning.

Okay, some easy questions to finish things off.

9. Who are the best parents in fiction?
Atticus Finch is the only character that comes to mind. Ma Joad, though excluding her husband, strikes me as in the running as well.

10. And the worst?
God. Holy crap, you did what to your son? You've got some issues.

EDIT: For a less potentially offensive answer, Huckleberry Finn's father is a twat.

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