No no, Sopko has it. You'll find lots of straight men who obsess over that because by playing up its importance they feel like the important one in their relationships with the opposite sex, thus making them more comfortable with their insecurities in other areas of their lives. It draws attention because it's a -difference-, so of course gay men aren't going to be as obsessed; it'd be like being obsessed with the tongue or something else both partners have.
How'd we get on this subject, again?