http://articles.baltimoresun.com/2012-09-05/news/bs-md-co-lamdin-20120905_1_judge-bruce-s-lamdin-domestic-violence-white-marsh-womanWhat a perfect ass. I actually bothered to listen to the linked audio (
http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/maryland/baltimore-county/bal-audio-hearing-before-judge-bruce-lamdin-20120905,0,2159417.mp3file ) and this is a guy who, since he's a judge, has not had people slap him like they frankly should. He seems utterly convinced that a pretty open & shut domestic abuse case is totally a case of a mooching wife who is either lying or is okay with the abuse (as evidenced by the fact she stayed with her husband some time) and why don't you just go live in a shelter and stop harassing your fine husband and trying to get me to do something, as if that will change your life, which haha it can't. It's especially stupid because this is a forward-looking hearing - even if hypothetically she should have left him soon, she's trying to do it now, you ass, so why are you raking her over the coals and trying to use this as evidence that things clearly aren't all that bad or that the problems are her fault.
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"You allow money to control your better judgment, because it's the easy way out."
"That's not it at all!"
"Then why would you go back then?"
"Because I was in school -"
"You didn't have any money and went back and lived with him because he was paying the bills!"
"He doesn't pay all the -"
"Then why'd you go back?"
(snip tearful explanation where she points out that she still feels sorry for her husband, that he has brain damage and PTD, was hoping things would get better, etc.)
"Ma'am, I'm trying not to be the least bit disrespectful to you, but you have to listen to yourself. If you choose to put yourself in this position in this relationship - for whatever reason - you choose to do it! Now you're asking me to put the gentleman out of his house and you think this piece of paper is some - catch-all, be-all."
(more snip)
"Out of his house? Isn't it our house? I'm his wife?"
"It's his house."
"That's not what the police said."
"Ma'am I don't care what the police said. The police don't control me."
(snip)
"You're troubling yourself. Because you're uninformed."
(snip)
"The problem is - I have to apply the FACTS."