So some of this is in response to met's article, most is in response to Jim's "fuck all you neutral assholes" rant.
For me, neutrality is usually a shorthand for either a) not actually caring enough about the issue to get involved. Or b) not having enough information/being skeptical of the information you have received. Which the piece there covered pretty neatly. If B, then follow all these steps! Or get off the fence. Or turn it into A if following all those steps is too much of a hassle. If A...well, then carry on not giving a fuck, that's fine. But there is something else that...kinda falls into 'neutral' but kinda doesn't.
What I see sometimes on issues(not on Gamergate because, uh, I only vaguely follow it here) is someone claiming neutrality because they can't bring themselves to agree wholly with any side of it. I see this in politics, people who like some of what one party does, but not other things. And same deal on the other party. So they have to prioritize what they care about most, or wind up sitting it out. I also see neutrality used by people who don't want to feel associated with the crazies that get the most publicity on either side of an issue.
Is that cowardice? I'm betting Jim will say yes, but I don't really think so. Because whenever someone takes a stand on an issue, the first thing opponents will do is drag up the craziest assholes that support your stance and go "oh so you think this shit is okay?". Which is dumb and bad, but people don't know how to deal with it. Condemn the extremist actions of your own side? Get ready for a deluge of "How dare you criticize us, you're not really on our side at all!" Try to brush it off or ignore it? Hey, that's just another form of refusing to condemn the contemptible! Deflect by pointing out the crazies on their side? And now we reach Business As Usual for arguments.
I'm kinda rambling at this point, but...I don't really have a good answer to the above. To speak only for myself for a moment(since I am the only person I can speak with absolute surety for), I certainly feel kinda like a hypocrite when I take a strong stance...and then my supposed allies on that issue start acting like giant douchebags and doing indefensible things in the name of a good cause. I take the route of condemning their actions, dealing with the backlash and moving on...usually right out of the arguments because I now feel ostracized by the very people I theoretically agree with. If I don't feel strongly enough about an issue to risk walking into that exhausting viper's nest again? Then I don't take an active stance and just quietly agree with the side I like more...but I stay out of the fighting. If it's a political issue I vote my conscience and stay out of the debates. I just don't have the energy to take a hard stance on every issue that crosses my path, quite frankly. Arguing is mentally exhausting and emotionally draining, only worth it if I really feel strongly about something.
So yeah, that's...not really "neutral" but it's not really taking a side either. I don't quite know what to call it, so it winds up getting lumped under "staying neutral". And while I also tend to roll my eyes at those who claim neutral is morally superior or whatnot, I also find myself curious if the "I don't have the energy to argue" or "I can't fully agree with either side so I don't know what to do" kinds of "neutral" fall into that "fuck you neutral cowards" territory?